Changing You ... Changing Me ... Ahaaaaaaaa :-)

People always ask

What should I do?

Leave or stay?

'If I leave,
I leave all the negative ...
But also the positive.'

'If I stay,
I keep all the positive ...
But the negative stays.'

There is no getting out of this mental carroussel.

The only real think you can ask yourself is:

'What brings me Joy'?

'What is it in my here and know,
that I do love?
And what would I like to see more?'

All to often we want to change:

change the boss
change the job
change the partner

And although often it might end up that way,
if you do not do the changing work on yourself,
very soon, you will hit the same wall ...

If you are irritated ...
Lose the irritation!

If you are frustrated ...
Lose the frustration!

If you feel imprisoned ...
Choose freedom!

But that all starts in your head!

And nobody else needs to change
in order for you to do that,
in order for you to feel good.

Don't fight where you are.

It is just a reflection
of your beliefs about life
and about yourself.

So however negative,
it is showing you a great mirror
of where YOU need to change

So do that.

And let life itself do the rest of the work

Maybe you'll end up with the same partner
Finally having found love in yourself and in the other.

Maybe you and your ex will be going on dinner dates,
together with your new partners.

Maybe you got a fantastic joboffer
and left your horrible boss.

Maybe seeing your boss in a different light,
has made him see you in a different light,
and you are working happily together.

You will get everything you want
Don't worry
Just don't hold on, out of fear.
And don't fight, where you are now.

Focus on where you want to go
with no faces and places
but just on the feeling you wish to live.

Have a great day everybody!

xx

Saying Sorry

You don't say sorry for the sake of somebody else. If people think they need a sorry from you in order to let go,
in order to forgive
they themselves have got some work to do!

You don't say sorry for them,

you say it for you!

If you have done something that you are 'sorry' about,

adding guilt doesn't help keeping it from happening again!
On the contrary,
guilt makes it worse,
and will make sure it happens again!

No positive thing can be born out of hitting yourself on the head.

That is why we do not tend to hit our children anymore,
as a society we're getting there to see that this is not the right way.
Why would you use it on yourself?

There is nothing to feel guilty about.

Whatever you have done.
If it is something negative,
it is sure to be born out of something negative in you.

Some limiting belief.
Some lack of love.

That can only be healed with adding more love,

Not with more hurt.

More guilt.

Saying sorry is a signal to your own ego,
that what you have done,
is not what you choose to do anymore,
and that you would like to replace it
with a behavior that is more suiting to you.

It is healing,

and helps creating the new version of you.
It is setting a new intention
of who you choose to be.

So do it …

Not because you are guilty …

And certainly not because somebody else needs it …

Though many will think they do …

Do it for yourself …

And know that you will probably will have to repeat it a few times …

You’re only human! J

Looking forward to seeing your new version (s) :-) x

Why is this happening to me?

There is a very simple answer to that question:
Because you can rise above it!
People often think, that manifesting the life of their dreams means 'no more contrast'
but that is not true.
Are you still afraid of something?
No better way of letting it go, than to let it happen :-)
That doesn't mean however, that you 'have' to expierence 'bad stuff',
but if you are afraid ... you will ...
so that you can see there is nothing to be afraid of
and you can create even bigger afterwards.
Why this is happening?
Because something unconsious
some negative belief
some lingering drama
wants to be let go of
Because it is blocking you.
And you can't let go, if you don't see it
Therefore it manifests
So that you can see what you are doing internally
And do the proper adjustment in yourself
That is wat we mean with 'the world is your mirror'
an external fight is an internal fight
external miserie is internal misery
external fussing is internal fussing ...

Let us al bring it to that last level ...

Time to rise above the first two! :-)

Have a great day everybody!

Thankfulness

Sometimes it is good to
'just go back to the basics'

in the speed of our lives
we get so focused on where we want to get

and that is good

but more often than not
if we're thinking about where we want to go
and at the same moment look at where we are now:

'not there yet'

we lose our joy
we start to worry
and doubt
if it's all gonna be all right
if 'we're gonna het there'

and we start to wonder
if what we want,
is realy what we want

...

of course it is

because what you want
what we all want
is being happy
and the feeling that we're succesful in what we do

and that is a state of mind
a choise
made in the here and now

so if worry and doubt are starting to take over
go back to the basics
appreciate all that is well

here and now

appreciate all that you have done well

here and now

and soon

you will feel the tingling in your tummy again

life flowing through you again

and you'll be ready to go ...

to wherever it is you want to go

on you joyful journey that is life :-)

Have a great day everybody!

It is so funny ...

It is so funny,
how we are naturally drawn
to do quite the opposite
of what would really work.

How did we come accros the idea,
that if we fight what we don't want
we would get what we do want?

That we could get peace by making war,
That we could get rich by taking things from others,
That we could be loved by being jealous,
That we could create what we want by whining about what we have not got ...

Though it is what we all do,
from time to time.
And though we can understand,
from a childlike perspective,
why we think that would work ...

It is not true.

Only love for yourself will make others love you more ....
Only appreciation for what you have, will make more coming in ...
Only giving will make you richer than ever before ...
And in the end, only forgiveness and understanding will end any war.

Yes ... It is an exercise
A lifetime long
To not get focused on what is wrong
And give all your energy to what it is you want to create

It is a exercise
To deepen the understanding
That somebody seeminly opposing you
Cannot realy touch you
Unless you believe they can

It is an exercise
To see
Again and again
The gift instead of the smak in the face

And it is an exercise
To know
To realy know
To the deepest core of your being
That all is well
Always
And that the universe is conspiring
To give you everything you ask for
Everything you need
To create a dream of a life ...

Feel like dreaming witth me? :-)

Finding Your Purpose

People make it a thinking thing,
finding your purpose.

But that is a huge mistake.

Because thinking is a matter of the mind,
it is rational,
logical,
but has nothing to do with passion.

If you follow your mind,
your life will be organised and safe
at best.
You will have done what other people told you,
and you will have made sure that you have the 'right' job,
with a steady income and guarantee for work.

It will not buy you hapiness.

You are not just here to make a living.

You are not just here to eat, sleep and work.

You are here to live out your greatest passion.

That is your purpose.

That is The Purpose of human life.

And that can never be found in your mind.

For that, you will have to go for your tummy.

What do you love to do?

What makes you happy?

Doing what you do best,
will always provide for the safety you long for.

There are rich accountants
There are poor acountants
There are rich artists
There are poor artists

It has got nothing to do with 'the right job'

It has got to do with Your Right Job.

Folowing your purpose,
will never fail you.

If only you believe it.

Do you?

Because it will only work if you do :-)

Have a great day everybody!

Xxx

Perception

I was talking to my dear mother earlier.

'would't it be nicer that people didn't suffer so much' she said,
'like with you when you were so depressed and addicted to all kinds of stuff ...
those are not things you realy would want to experience, would you?'

I took some time to pounder the thought and ...

I don't feel it like that.

To me, everything I have experienced has been a gift.
Thanks to all of that,
I am now who I am.
I can help people,
undedstand them,
without judgement.

Yes, sure,
in the middle of the heat,
there is nothing more that you want
than to escape.

But you have to know,
that blistering fires
can produce the strongest metal
and create the finest Instruments.

Is suffering needed?
No.
In essence it is not necessary.
But if you have suffered,
it means some things in your life needed looking at.
Your suffering means,
you haven't found your highest vision yet.
Which basically all boiles down to
Loving yourself more
and trusting life.
Broaden your perspective.
And be happy.

I'd be happy to help :-)

X